December 2, 2010

I play a smart person IRL

So, I realize that I am good at playing it off that I know exactly what to do when it comes to taking care of the girls.  I am good at this mostly because of my mother.  Over the last year, she has led me astray on many things concerning the girls and I have learned to go with my instinct and to heed the advice of our ped and the dear internet. 

For example, when the girls got their first shots, Mickie screamed and screamed and when I asked her what to do, she had no immediate answer.  After some thought, she said that I should take her to the ER.  Then she said to try a bath.  I tried the bath, thinking that at 2 months old she was a bit young to appreciate the soothing qualities of a bath.  I was right and it only prolonged the screaming and really what she needed was to go to bed.  After she fell asleep I dream fed her and all was okay.  The next day mom said that she told everyone that she knew that all I had to do was put her to bed...  Mom told me to get the girls on solid foods at 4 months old.... And according to her, I am the devil for keeping them on formula for so long....  Recently, when Maddie was throwing up and sick with the flu, mom told me to give her tea.  I actually called the ped who told me to put her on a clear liquid diet with lots of pedialite and give her mild solids only after she has not thrown up for 8 hours.  The next day, mom told me that she knew that that's what was needed, but just wanted me to figure it out on my own.  

These are a few examples out of literally hundreds.  Thousands, even.  I am used to it (as it has gone on my entire life, it's just ten times worse now that I have children) and I compensate by not asking for her advice and when she offers it (all the time), to just take it with a grain of salt. 

So what am I getting at?  Well, I play a good role, but I find myself needing help with no one to turn to.  I am having trouble weaning the girls off of the bottle and I guess deep down I think that I am doing the right thing, but I have no confirmation.  Happy babies ??  (Which they are) I guess that's my confirmation. 

Jeff is pretty good at supporting my decisions, but that's what they are-My decisions.  If it were up to him, we wouldn't wean them off the bottle!  :)  That's okay.  I don't really mind.  I am the mom and I technically know what's best, right? 

So, today, I am counting calories and stressing myself out to make sure that the girls are getting the proper nutrition given that I have dropped another bottle off of the feeding schedule.  And I realize that the girls are not machines, and they won't eat exactly 990 calories as I have calculated given their weight.  But at least it's something to go by.

Here are my thoughts intermingled with their schedule: (and if anyone has any advice, by all means, please share.  I am sure it will help me to be able to look back at this too, which is another reason I am documenting it.)

7: 00 a.m: 10 oz bottle (They drink it willingly. They love their bottles which is good, but I wonder if I should limit the ounces to 8 and feed them more food.) and a jar of fruit each (they love fruit, but sometimes I feel like I am stuffing them after all that milk.)

Mid morning around 9:00-9:15: a jar of meat/fruit each a half jar of veggies and if they want more, some fruit.  Water to drink in their sippy cups.  (This feeding is pretty smooth.  They enjoy the food and are happy to eat and drink from their cups.)

9:30-10:30 - nap

12:00: 10 oz bottle. (again, they drink it most willingly.  They cry if I take it away and give them solid food.  I have tried milk in a sippy cup and they don't drink it... but maybe that's fine..?? It's only after they have had their bottle that they take solid food) and a jar each of veggies/meat/sw potato and a jar of fruit.

2:00 -3:30 -nap

4:00: 10 oz bottle and two jars each of veggies/meat/sw potato/fruit (same as above)

6:30 bath time

7:00 10 oz bottle and a jar of fruit each.

7:30 p.m.-7:00 am -sleep

So, today, I am eliminating the 4:00 p.m. bottle and replacing it with more food and water in their sippy cups.  By the end of December, I will eliminate the noon bottle and replace it with food and water.  So when we start the new year, they will only have a bottle in the morning and at night.  Then I will drop off the night bottle (maybe?) and finally the morning bottle-since that is the one they want most.

...Looking at it, it doesn't look that bad.... It does look like a lot of work on my part though! haha.

Another thing (as if this post needs to be longer), is that I read on all sorts of blogs that their kiddos at this age are eating finger foods and pretty much small pieces of what the parents are eating and I don't know how to do this..  What finger foods?  Why not jar food?  Expense?  Like, last night for dinner, we had BBQ'd beef and cauliflower florets with cheese sauce.  I think the BBQ sauce was too spicy for them and I think if I was going to give them the cauliflower and cheese, that I would run it through the blender first... so why not just give them baby food?  I don't know what to do there.  The night before last, we had fajitas.... The night before that we had fish and steamed broccoli.  I gave them some fish, but they didn't seem to care for it. 

I know that I said the girls ate a lot Thanksgiving food, but it was mashed taters and gravy mostly, very few pieces of turkey so small that I don't even know how they tasted it! Pie, which is soft enough. Bread and butter-soft enough. Stuffing-had a teeny tiny bite.  Cranberry sauce-soft enough. 

They do get a lot of pieces and samples of our food, but not nearly enough to sustain them. 

Well, anywhoser, that's my dilemma.  It's not a bad dilemma, but again, I think I am just looking for confirmation that I am doing the right thing...Some one out there that is doing the same thing? 

If you made it to the bottom of this post, I applaud you!  :)


Kahla said...

I think you are doing just fine. Every baby is different and who knows your babies better than you. Emery won't even eat baby food in a jar anymore at all. She eats whatever we are eating. 1) because it's easier 2) because we feel like she needs to learn what to eat regular foods and 3) she likes it. That being said, we always make sure it's soft enough and in small enough pieces. She still takes an 8 oz. bottle in the morning, sometimes taking a bottle before her afternoon nap (we had her off this, but she got very sick and we put her back on), and then she takes an 8 oz bottle before bed but usually falls asleep in my arms half way through. If she does stay awake and finish, she goes to bed right after. She is not big on a sippie cup and would prefer to drink out of ours. I swear we have tried every one they make. She also had 8 teeth (has had that many since 9 months) and chews very well. I think you just have to move at your own pace. Gradually introduce more foods to them. They'll learn to chew (we literally would demonstrate this to both of our kids) and how to eat different textures. Oh, she is 100% off forumula and drinks whole milk. No worries, you are doing fine!

strongblonde said...

so. you know my kids hate textures. :) we still do jarred stage 2 foods. a sample day might look like this:
7am: wake up and nurse
7:30: am snack of little pieces of toast or banana
8:00: breakfast of cereal and some type of fruit mixed in
9:30 nap
10:30 5-7 oz milk (still in the bottle--we're thinking of trying to transition to cups, but it's not going that great right now)
10:45 snack--we had previously been doing crackers, little freeze dried fruits, or something like that. they love to hold the crackers and take little bites. lately they have been taking bites of a whole apple as part of their snack (this happened by accident and has been a huge success here)
12:00 lunch--they split a yogurt and a veggie and have finger foods (usually cut up "healthy" pizza, cut up turkey hot dogs, cut up little pieces of cheese, chicken, frozen peas and carrots)
1:00 nap
2:30 5-7 oz bottle milk
2:45 afternoon snack--fruit bar (earth's best makes one that is really soft and my kids go crazy for it) or other fruit
5:00 dinner- some sort of jarred fruit and meat or veggie and meat combo and a veggie jar. then they eat whatever is left over from lunch.

in general my kids eat cheese at every meal (i know). we have also tried black beans and they liked those, too. we also did a grilled cheese and cut it up into tiny pieces. i struggle all of the time to try to come up with finger foods. like you, i really don't think that they can eat what we have for dinner!

I'm excited to see what other people post to see their schedules and hopefully get some ideas :)

sounds like you are doing a great job though...just continue to take all of that advice with a grain of salt, lol.

~Hollie said...

This could turn out to be a very long comment. But our babies, being born on the same day, I feel a connection to you, and feel I can share this. And always as a disclaimer, this is completely MY experience and am not in any way telling YOU what to do.
We (my husband and I) were slow to realize that our lil guy really wanted to do the next steps in eating and drinking. At age 1, he took a bottle several times per day. By age 1 and a week, he had totally weaned himself off of the bottle and onto a sippy cup. I too agonized over the calorie count. But I had to realize that some days I eat more, some days less. And our ped said that as long as he's getting 24 oz of whole milk per day, he's fine. We steer away from juices, calories and sugar with no fiber and bad diaper rash. :o( Not to mention, He doesn't like it. So we do water in between meals, milk with meals. My guy has 12 teeth now, however, his peers in his class have somewhere between 2-8 teeth, and they eat fine. They all eat regular people food, not mashed or blended. They mash it with their gums.
Every kid is different, and I recognize this. And Im always behind in seeing the cues that he's giving me. But, as with every big step in his development, if I watch, he'll tell me when its time to move on. Just like I have a feeling that when its time to move on, the girls will let you know too.
With the weaning of the formula bottle, we started with the first bottle of the morning, which scared me to death. But my niece assured me he'd do well. She is a super mom. This kid resisted a sippy from day 1, when he wasn't ready. And the first day we tried it, was kind of hard. He didn't really drink much. But I let about an hour go by, offered again, he drank the whole thing. He made no difference between Whole, Organic (super pastuerized) milk and enfamil formula. We mixed formula and milk some, but figured he didn't care, so went straight to milk. This transition took less than 4 days. From 5 bottles per day, to none. He was just ready to move on. With regard to sauces (bbq, ketchup, pizza) he eats literally what we do. He's eaten caper sauce, mustards, cranberry sauce, you name it. If he doesn't like it, he doesn't eat it. We just don't force it.
I think you are doing well, Chelle. I believe your girls, not your mother, will tell you when they are ready to move on. You know them best. Trust your instincts!